Monday, May 21, 2012

Every Journey Begins with Single Step

Welcome to the Carnival of Weaning: Weaning - Your Stories
This post was written for inclusion in the Carnival of Weaning hosted by Code Name: Mama and Aha! Parenting. Our participants have shared stories, tips, and struggles about the end of the breastfeeding relationship.

Every weaning journey starts the first time you hold your newborn close and nurse him (or her) the very first step in the weaning journey. 

When Hannabert was a newborn (after our initial struggles), holding him close to nurse was a surefire way to send him off to sleep.  My breasts no longer seem to have that superpower.

Oh, he still nurses (and in fact is being an extremely lazy nurser which is killing my nipples).  He hates to have my breasts covered up and thinks that 24-7 access is great for small sips here and there at the beginning and end of each day but no longer does he snuggle into my arms at the end of each day, knowing that it is where he will fall asleep.

He comes to me to nurse when he is frightened (and there is a lot to be frightened of in this world); upset; tired; cranky; and bored but no longer does he latch on to sleep.  He would much prefer to nurse and then go and snuggle with dad.  While this breaks my heart a bit, his dad loves that fact that HE is now the one with the sleep power.

While I know his increased independence is a good thing and a healthy thing and it means so far, Hannabert is doing well, the independence is a bit bittersweet.  He needs me less and our relationship is changing.  He no longer needs to nurse every two hours.  He has gone from nursing 8 to 10 times a day to just three.  I let him control how often and how long he nurses (which is hard because who doesn't want to keep a baby little forever) because this is a journey that he has to take.

As he conquers each new milestone, I know that his need and desire to breastfeed will diminish.  I know, sometime, in the future, all he will want is a quick hug then a high five and then a "I am proud of you son."  

Until that time, I will cherish each moment Hannabert comes to me and asks me to hold him close and nurse him. 

Thank you for visiting the Carnival of Weaning hosted by Dionna at Code Name: Mama and Dr. Laura at Aha! Parenting.

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants (and many thanks to Joni Rae of Tales of a Kitchen Witch for designing our lovely button):

Friday, May 11, 2012

I am not Mommy Enough for Everyone but I am Mommy enough for me

I am a new(ish) mommy, parenting a 15mth old.  From the moment Horn and I announced we were expecting, we started to get advice.  Advice from whether or not we needed a wipe warmer (didn't get one), what bottles to use (I had Horn pick ones that looked most like my nipples to avoid confusion), diaper brands (we use whatever but like Pampers consistently more than other brands; I still want to use more cloth), and whether or not formula is as good as breast milk (I fought tooth and nail with my body to use only breastmilk from week 2 until 5.5mths when we started homemade solids).

All the advice I ('cause no one ever really seemed to give any to Horn although he might have been not sharing the tips with me in order to help me maintain a calm presence) was well intended.  I don't believe that any mom's gave me advice with the intent to mess up Hannabert.  They simply gave me advice based on their own experiences and their own child(ren).

Nursing a baby on 8-11-2011

Nursing a toddler on 3-12-2012
I believe that all moms want what is best for their children.  

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